The Bully's Excuses

Abuse is about power and control.

There are cycles to abuser's behavior:

Apology and promise never to repeat

Statements that no one will believe the victim

Threats to kill the victim or the children if they try to leave

Alcohol / Drugs

The bully may give these as an excuse to gain sympathy and subsequent forgiveness. The "excuse" is no excuse for bullying. Don't give in to it. Report it and get help.

Reverse Blame

Bully manipulates the situation using words which place blame for the bully's behavior on the victim.